Communicating about sex can be one of the most difficult things to do, even if you generally have a really easy time talking about things with your partner you may find that it is really difficult to talk to them about what you want in bed. This can be difficult if you are not 100% comfortable with your sexuality or if you do not want to hurt the other person's feelings when you ask them for what you want.

The great thing about sex is that you don't necessarily have to talk to ask for what you want. Instead, if there is something that you want you can show them by touching them in the way that you want to be touched, etc. This is a great way of communicating your needs and you may be surprised how easy this tactic is to use. Generally when we enjoy something we want to reciprocate, so try this non-verbal method of communication before you get uncomfortable.

If the non-verbal method of asking for what you want doesn't work, why not bring it up during your post-sex talk. Tell your mate that you really loved the experience but you were wondering if next them they could maybe and then put your needs into words. Don't feel silly about it, it is natural to ask for what you want. When you bring it up after sex you may feel even less silly about sharing what you want because sex is already on the brain.

If you don't feel that pillow talk is a good time to bring up what you want in the bedroom, why not write it down? Simply tell your mate that you have some needs or some interests and that you want them to help you fulfill them. Tell them in clear terms what you want and how they can help you feel satisfied concerning this need. Then, send them the letter or leave it laying on their pillow one morning or evening, giving them time to read or respond to it.

Of course, if you want to get what you want in the bedroom sooner rather than later you just need to be upfront and honest about what you need. You can do this in many different ways. You can just bring it up over dinner one night, or when things are starting to get hot and heavy you can simply ask for what you want. You may find that asking for something new and different is something that your mate really responds to, and it may light a hotter fire than ever before between the two of you when you are in the sack!